Humans Evolved to all have some of the same fundamental factors that drive us, the need to feel accepted, to be loved, to feel normal. It’s built into us. It's a survival instinct at this point. But the instant need for these things has been taken too far. We’ve twisted it. We let our ego replace our identity. We started putting price tags and designer labels on personality and calling it success and fortune.
You’re not even you anymore. You’re an actor playing a role you were given before you even got to decide. You’ve been shaped fear, pushed through by approval, personally validated by performance. When you’re scared of vulnerability, the root of the issue is being terrified of being seen. You’re terrified of being heard. Terrified of being honest. And if you can’t look yourself in the mirror and say, “this is me,” then who are you?
But you say "I can", but no matter how long you stare into the shell of a person looking back at you, saying, “this is me" that will never be you, It never was. And no matter how hard you try to fake it, it’ll never be.
So stop. Take a deep breath. Take a second to ask yourself, are you happy with yourself? Not the facade you put on every day like a fat girl wearing makeup, Not the one you filtered down; You. Do you like the way you interact with people? Do you follow through on you promises to yourself? Do your actions reflect what you think and feel?
If you said no to any of those, you already know. And maybe, you’re just too scared to change.